Abortion chat
To me, abortion is a whirlwind. You may be questioned on your opinion of abortion, or how you now feel about your abortion, but I find it difficult to pinpoint. As I’ve mentioned many times before, for some it is a whole positive experience and for some it is completely traumatic. And for someone like myself, it’s a little bit of everything. You have your high highs: you’re able to understand your reasons for having an abortion and can see how the experience has shaped you into a better and stronger person, you can envision and live your dreams. And then you have your low lows: you’re unsure if you really made the right decision, you hate yourself and something inside you wishes you could take that decision back. A whirlwind is the best description of my abortion journey. I am often back and forth between those feelings. My key piece of advice to you is to try and balance the whirlwind by talking and sharing your feelings. Appreciate the whirlwind for what it is, it’s a part of you now. And remember that it can be manageable with a little help from a friend, family member or even myself. Get talking now, your whirlwind will ease 🦋
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Dreams
Just because you had an abortion does not mean you are unworthy of your dreams. I used to beat myself up about my abortion. I told myself I was sick, vile, horrible. I told myself I was undeserving of anything good in my life. I punished myself by removing myself from the good that came my way. If you’re feeling a similar way, I’m here to tell you that you’re not sick or vile for making a good and brave decision for yourself. If anything, you deserve more of the good to come to you. Dream big because your abortion happened for a reason. Without your abortion there may not have been that special space for your true dreams to flourish. So go for it. No more hanging on to negative vibes 🦋
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Pregnancy and infant loss awareness week
This week I want to honour all of the amazing beings that have experienced pregnancy or infant loss. These women, men and family units are true fighters when it comes to battling through grief. But I also want to remind you that despite abortion often being a personal choice and decision to terminate a pregnancy, I maintain that abortion is a huge loss to so many. Just because you may have been in charge, does not mean grief can not come knocking. Grief after abortion IS relevant and YOU have the right to feel a part of this special week, abortion warriors. If you need a space to talk especially during this week, reach out to us 🦋
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Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Artwork: Unknown
Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Survival
Courage to speak up about abortion comes with time. Be patient. But be mindful that YOU have the ability to help someone change the path of their journey by opening up that special part of yourself... Isn’t that amazing? 💭
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
THINK
A kind request to those who have not experienced abortion: Please think. To my neighbours who have not experienced abortion please take a moment to think before you question WHY someone has had an abortion. Time and time again I am questioned why I made the choice I did - even by complete strangers and it can come across a little abruptly. I am at a place in my life where I can handle that - I am happy and open to talk about my abortion experience. But please be mindful that not everybody is ready. Instead of asking “WHY?” Ask the individual if they want to talk about their experience with no added pressure. They may or may not open up to you and that is completely okay. We do not owe an explanation. I believe that all abortion warriors deserve respect surrounding their personal experience. It costs nothing to be mindful or respectful but it is something that can be so easily forgotten when it is a matter that does not directly affect you. So here is just a small reminder that I hope can be considered. Thank you. 🦋
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
What if?
Are there ever any “What if’s” on your mind? 💭 I often wonder what my life would be like now without my abortion. Where would I be? What would my child be like? It’s completely okay to think about those things. The main thing is that we try our best to avoid turning “what if’s” into an obsession. Try not overthink it too much. For every “what if”, try and think of a positive factor in your present life. Send me a message or note down 1 “what if” that is often on your mind as well as 1 positive to create a balance! ✉️❤️
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Be gentle
Expectations for abortion recovery are often set too high. There is no rush to heal. You may just be at the beginning of your abortion recovery or you may be years through your journey. No matter where you are on your journey at this point in time, it is vital to be gentle with yourself. You may beat yourself up for not meeting your own expectations or recovery yet you have probably forgotten that you have in fact overcome the most gigantic hurdle perhaps in your entire life so far and you have shown the world that you can go from strength to strength. So the least you deserve is to give yourself back some gentle love. Accept that where you are right now is exactly where you are meant to be. Be patient and understand that you are not a machine that can simply be fixed. You are human and are trying your hardest to wrap your head around the impact that abortion has had upon your life (be it positive or negative). Be gentle to yourself because in time, you will get there. You will reach your abortion recovery goal. 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Useful tips for loved ones
Are you a loved one of an abortion warrior? At times you may struggle to bring the topic up. You may question yourself: Is the topic too raw? Is it too soon to talk about it? Have they forgotten about it? 🤷🏻♀️ So here are a few useful tips to let the abortion warrior in your life know that you support and love them for their decision:
1) Listen without judgement.
2) Acknowledge the abortion and their pain - Provide reassurance by stating that you understand how much courage it has taken to have an abortion and that you are available if ever they need a listening ear. Simply ask - “How are you feeling today? Do you want to chat?”.
3) Offer to be a hand to hold during healing activities - suggest relaxing or creative activities that can sooth the mind such as walking, meditation, arts, cooking and so on.
4) Remain calm during the tough times. For many of us, abortion can bring with it highs and lows. During those low times we may be unable to fully connect or converse in our usual manner due to mood swings, depression, post traumatic stress, fatigue - the list goes on. Be mindful of mood swings and take into consideration that we may not always mean what we say.
5) Be there physically. ASK if your friend would like a cuddle, to be held or offer soothing touches. The abortion process is a sensitive time and sometimes the simple act of laying together or cuddling a loved one can really help. However being alone can too be helpful in healing, so please always ask rather than assume.
6) An act of kindness every once in a while never goes a miss. You friend may have very low energy levels after abortion and could use some help around the house or with personal care. Offer to wash the dishes or run a lovely bath.
7) Remember that abortion recovery will take time and for many, is a reoccurring process throughout life. Please do not hurry your loved one.
8 ) Involve those that are trusting and understanding and aid the abortion warrior in your life to continue relationships with those special people.
9) Think about your own feelings about the abortion and discuss them when you feel the time is right.
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1) Listen without judgement.
2) Acknowledge the abortion and their pain - Provide reassurance by stating that you understand how much courage it has taken to have an abortion and that you are available if ever they need a listening ear. Simply ask - “How are you feeling today? Do you want to chat?”.
3) Offer to be a hand to hold during healing activities - suggest relaxing or creative activities that can sooth the mind such as walking, meditation, arts, cooking and so on.
4) Remain calm during the tough times. For many of us, abortion can bring with it highs and lows. During those low times we may be unable to fully connect or converse in our usual manner due to mood swings, depression, post traumatic stress, fatigue - the list goes on. Be mindful of mood swings and take into consideration that we may not always mean what we say.
5) Be there physically. ASK if your friend would like a cuddle, to be held or offer soothing touches. The abortion process is a sensitive time and sometimes the simple act of laying together or cuddling a loved one can really help. However being alone can too be helpful in healing, so please always ask rather than assume.
6) An act of kindness every once in a while never goes a miss. You friend may have very low energy levels after abortion and could use some help around the house or with personal care. Offer to wash the dishes or run a lovely bath.
7) Remember that abortion recovery will take time and for many, is a reoccurring process throughout life. Please do not hurry your loved one.
8 ) Involve those that are trusting and understanding and aid the abortion warrior in your life to continue relationships with those special people.
9) Think about your own feelings about the abortion and discuss them when you feel the time is right.
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Don’t worry
“Don’t worry, you’re growing” 🌱 Sometimes it can feel like you’re stuck in a vicious abortion cycle, feeling defeated and closed off to the world. But know that every single day you’re evolving into this magical and strong being. You’re growing so much every day. You’re blossoming into an abortion warrior. And at some point in the future, you will notice just how much and be able to say to yourself “wow, I did that” 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @amandaoleander
It’s mine
Abortion recovery is yours. Family and friends can provide an amazing support system and guidance through healing but can very easily cross the fine line of love and support and turn to nagging, rules and expectations. Remind yourself daily that this is your journey, not anybody else’s. You can go at your own pace, there is no time limit to grieving or healing despite how much someone we love asks us “When are you going to get over it?” 💭 The answer is never, because abortion is now a part of me.
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Full of truth
Do you ever get that feeling where you’re just about to explode your feelings all over the place? Perhaps you haven’t had the opportunity or space to be able to speak your truth about your abortion. If you’re not quite ready to speak to a family member or friend just yet, my inbox is always open for you to open your mouth and let your truth exist. Holding in thoughts and feelings for so long can take its toll on our bodies. Please don’t remain silent ❤️
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Photo credit 📷: @raise.the.vibe.tribe
Mountain
I am always so grateful to the women and men who have came before me. Abortion survivors/warriors have showed me the courage and light that termination can bring. By listening to their stories, they have inspired me to move my own mountain as well as to understand the importance of sharing my story so that someone else that may need to hear it, can. One more person sharing their abortion journey means one more person somewhere in the world, who is fighting a silent battle, can eventually climb and overcome their mountain. How amazing is that? Could you change someone’s perspective by sharing your story? Help move the mountain 🏔
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
7 years
Today marks 7 years since my abortion. In the first few years of dealing with my abortion anniversary I used to dread the thought of the day, knowing it would be filled with emotion. I’m not usually very good at expressing emotions and letting my loved ones know that today may be a tough day, so I would make sure that I would always be busy to occupy my mind then perhaps later on, cry myself to sleep so that I didn’t have to address my emotion publicly. I still of course feel emotion on this day, but I no longer hide it. I’m not embarrassed to talk about my feelings toward abortion. The difference between now and a few years back is that my abortion anniversary is no longer a space for pure negativity and beating myself up. I see my abortion anniversary as a space on one day a year to remember but also celebrate my brave and free choice as a woman to choose what is best for myself and my unborn child. I haven’t quite thought about what I would like to do later today to remember/celebrate this day. I’ll certainly cry remembering my struggle but I won’t forget to smile because of my strength and where life has lead me to because of my decision. When your abortion anniversary comes around, remember that it can be whatever you want it to be. I just hope that besides the pain and grief you may feel every other day of the year, that the positives are able to shine through for you too ❤️you deserve at least that.
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
My journey
Coming up to the 7 year anniversary for my abortion, I thought I would look at my journey. It’s been a tough 7 years, but I can see progress. At early stages in my journey, I felt self hatred, resentment towards myself and others who I felt influenced my decision as well as deep regret. But as the months go on, and as I invest time in my healing and recovery I have been able to come to a stage in my life in which I can accept my decision. I love myself for being brave, I have love for the life lost and for the people who have supported and aided me through the abortion process. I have love for the many women around the world who have been through and are currently going through abortion. I am practicing every day to reach my future goal of self love, self care and belief. These are points in my journey that will continually require hard work because there is still some small part of me that struggles with feeling deserving and worthy. I tell myself each and every day that I will get there and if you are reading this feeling the exact same way, you will get there too. I just wanted to share this with you all so that you too can see that abortion recovery isn’t just a quick fix, it’s a life long journey ❤️
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
A reminder:
Sometimes my abortion made me feel worthless and undeserving, it made me feel ugly and at times, defeated. But I now understand that abortion does not have to mean any of those things. Abortion is not defined by anybody else’s opinion. My abortion is my own, and I decide that my journey was in fact beautiful. So here is a reminder that you too are worthy of all the good coming to you in your life. Don’t push it away, don’t punish yourself because you are enough and you are beautiful. 🌷
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Progress
“A real sign of progress is when we no longer punish ourselves for our imperfections.” - Yung Pueblo 🌈
At what point are you at right on your journey to abortion recovery? Do you still feel the need to punish yourself for your abortion? Do you see your abortion as an imperfection or flaw to your character? Or are you coming to terms with your choice? Perhaps you are finally at peace. Working slowly each day towards acceptance and an inner peace toward the decision we made is so helpful in aiding progression and the healing you deserve. Each day if you can tell yourself: “I understand my decision and accept my choices. I can forgive myself and believe I have the ability to move on.” you become a step closer to recovery. 💚
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At what point are you at right on your journey to abortion recovery? Do you still feel the need to punish yourself for your abortion? Do you see your abortion as an imperfection or flaw to your character? Or are you coming to terms with your choice? Perhaps you are finally at peace. Working slowly each day towards acceptance and an inner peace toward the decision we made is so helpful in aiding progression and the healing you deserve. Each day if you can tell yourself: “I understand my decision and accept my choices. I can forgive myself and believe I have the ability to move on.” you become a step closer to recovery. 💚
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I love you for your abortion
You may have been made to feel that the people in your life can only love you despite your abortion, but I’m here to tell you that: I love you for your strong and courageous effort to take on a responsible and caring choice for your unborn child. I love you for your bravery for enduring unexpected emotional, psychological and physical consequences. I love you for trying each and every day. I love you for your support of women’s reproductive rights. I love you for the amazing being you have been shaped into along your journey. I love you for your abortion 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Happy Father’s Day
There are many cases where partners or friends may disappear after they hear the words “I’m pregnant”. But I also want to acknowledge the men that are supportive no matter what decision we make, that try to be strong through the abortion process. A lot of people make the assumption that abortion (recovery) is only for women, but it’s about men too. They’re human, they feel and have opinions about their abortion journey just as much as we do. Sometimes, they just need a little help in speaking up about it. I want to be inclusive of all within this community -so I hope you can give some thought about the men that face abortion too this Father’s Day 💙
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Heal
“You cannot heal in the same environment that made you sick” - Uknown. 💭
I have been one to complain that I am not getting better when it comes to my abortion recovery. I’m pretty sure we all have those moments when we think “why am I even trying?” or “what more could I possibly do?” But during those times it never occurred to me that I was my own worst enemy. I was making myself sick. My actions/solutions were repetitive and I failed time and time again to break bad habits. My attitude was always so negative, leaving my mind unable to escape to a hopeful and better future. Over time, after research and many conversations later - it clicked for me. I came to realise that I must push my boundaries and try something different no matter how hard that may be. In order to further heal and make it through abortion recovery, you sometimes have to break the mould and break those habits you so trust. Blaming yourself? Hating yourself? Wishing you could be the old you or be someone else completely? Instead, THINK outside of the box. What could you do this week that would be GOOD for you? The same old routine is not the answer. Could you share your story with someone new? Could you tell yourself “I forgive myself”? Can you get yourself out of the house and go for a walk to somewhere you would never usually go? Those same old habits that are so comfortable and easy to rely on are not our medicine. We deserve better.
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I have been one to complain that I am not getting better when it comes to my abortion recovery. I’m pretty sure we all have those moments when we think “why am I even trying?” or “what more could I possibly do?” But during those times it never occurred to me that I was my own worst enemy. I was making myself sick. My actions/solutions were repetitive and I failed time and time again to break bad habits. My attitude was always so negative, leaving my mind unable to escape to a hopeful and better future. Over time, after research and many conversations later - it clicked for me. I came to realise that I must push my boundaries and try something different no matter how hard that may be. In order to further heal and make it through abortion recovery, you sometimes have to break the mould and break those habits you so trust. Blaming yourself? Hating yourself? Wishing you could be the old you or be someone else completely? Instead, THINK outside of the box. What could you do this week that would be GOOD for you? The same old routine is not the answer. Could you share your story with someone new? Could you tell yourself “I forgive myself”? Can you get yourself out of the house and go for a walk to somewhere you would never usually go? Those same old habits that are so comfortable and easy to rely on are not our medicine. We deserve better.
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“I have neglected my body since I had my abortion. Is this normal?”
Question 🤷♀️: “I have neglected my body since my abortion, is this normal?”
Answer 🦋: I think this is very normal. This is not to say it is a healthy coping mechanism, but so many women and men including myself will neglect and fail to fully care for themselves post abortion. In my case, I believe it was due to the fact that I felt guilty for choosing a better life for myself. I chose to punish myself for being what I deemed “selfish” at the time. In my mind I would reinforce everyday that I don’t deserve to feel good, feel true happiness and joy or receive good things and gestures from other people who love me. I distanced myself from many and ate away my feelings instead. That made the pain of grief and loss somewhat bearable at the time (little did I know how damaging it was until I shared my feelings and had the courage to seek counselling). No matter where your neglectful behaviour and lack of self care comes from, it’s important to note that in order to be the best version of yourself, to heal from abortion and achieve your dreams - self care is the key. In my opinion, you can’t truly be at peace until you learn to love yourself again. Small steps like eating one nutritional meal per day, going for a walk, doing something you enjoy and simple relaxation activities can be the first small step to self care. Of course you need those odd days where you look like shit, binge eat and watch TV for hours - but don’t turn it into your solution.
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Answer 🦋: I think this is very normal. This is not to say it is a healthy coping mechanism, but so many women and men including myself will neglect and fail to fully care for themselves post abortion. In my case, I believe it was due to the fact that I felt guilty for choosing a better life for myself. I chose to punish myself for being what I deemed “selfish” at the time. In my mind I would reinforce everyday that I don’t deserve to feel good, feel true happiness and joy or receive good things and gestures from other people who love me. I distanced myself from many and ate away my feelings instead. That made the pain of grief and loss somewhat bearable at the time (little did I know how damaging it was until I shared my feelings and had the courage to seek counselling). No matter where your neglectful behaviour and lack of self care comes from, it’s important to note that in order to be the best version of yourself, to heal from abortion and achieve your dreams - self care is the key. In my opinion, you can’t truly be at peace until you learn to love yourself again. Small steps like eating one nutritional meal per day, going for a walk, doing something you enjoy and simple relaxation activities can be the first small step to self care. Of course you need those odd days where you look like shit, binge eat and watch TV for hours - but don’t turn it into your solution.
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I weigh
During the abortion recovery process it’s so easy to feel down and disregard the positive aspects of ourselves and our lives. @i_weigh by @jameelajamilofficial is something I’ve followed for a while now that I believe can really help us rediscover our amazing bodies, soul, abilities and connections. My challenge to you is to try making an @i_weigh image today. You could add to it daily or over the coming weeks. It’s important to love yourself for who you truly are in order to heal. Here is my own. I was amazed by all of the positive things I could think of. You just might surprise yourself too! Please feel free to share with me if you feel like creating your own 💕
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Photo credit 📷 : @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Abortion Buddies
Do you ever think to yourself
“I wish I had a friend who understands what abortion means to me.” Join my abortion buddy list to gain access to other people going through abortion too by liking and commenting on this post or messaging privately to remain anonymous. I know too well that sometimes all we need is a simple chat with a friend to lift our mood. So I have decided to put together a list of contacts that you can interact with, who have been through abortion, are open to speaking and sharing their own experiences to aid one another. Let’s help each other recover after abortion.
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“I wish I had a friend who understands what abortion means to me.” Join my abortion buddy list to gain access to other people going through abortion too by liking and commenting on this post or messaging privately to remain anonymous. I know too well that sometimes all we need is a simple chat with a friend to lift our mood. So I have decided to put together a list of contacts that you can interact with, who have been through abortion, are open to speaking and sharing their own experiences to aid one another. Let’s help each other recover after abortion.
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Signs that you are recovering after abortion
Signs that you are recovering after abortion. You may not be there just yet, you may not even feel close to recovery. But this is just a small insight as to what recovery can look like. You don’t need to be achieving each and every one of these points, working towards just one step to recovery is HUGE. Which step to recovery do you feel is most doable for you at this time? 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Stop being so afraid
We’re often scared to speak the words “my abortion”. Sometimes it’s the fear of judgement from others and sometimes it’s due to the fear of facing the real truth about our abortion. It’s usually the easier option to store and shelf it away somewhere deep inside our brain. But facing your abortion head on will help you in healing and processing crucial thoughts and feelings. Today, if you feel like you can, try speaking a true thought to yourself in the mirror about your abortion. My thought today is: “My abortion hurt me, but it made me the strong woman I am today.” 💭
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
A step back
Angry, disappointed and speechless at today’s world. There are so many things I could say, but this picture speaks a thousand words. I’m saving my voice for the long and continuous battle against the abortion taboo and women’s rights that we will keep on battling. Keep speaking out and shouting out about abortion. Abortion is a gift, a free choice and should remain that way, always. 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @lovemesodove
Your feelings are NORMAL
Embrace all of those feels, feel them without care and shame. OWN them, they are yours to feel. This is your abortion, nobody else’s opinion or thoughts matter but your own. Sad? That’s normal. Happy? That’s normal. Confused? That’s normal. Please remember you’re not alone in feeling what you are feeling today. ❤️
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Photo credit 📷: @abortion_embroidery
Sometimes you just can’t
Sometimes you just can’t. And that’s okay. We can’t always be radiating sunshine, happiness and rainbows. Sometimes the post abortion stress/trauma can get the better of us. You have to take the time out to listen to what your mind and body are saying to you. Perhaps you need a day to seek out a safe and quiet place, confide in those who you trust, or simply spend a day making yourself the centre of attention. Sometimes the idea of not being positive scares us off. We question why we are not our usual self. But that is our bodies way of reminding us that we are only human, and to take a well deserved break. What simple action can you make today to give your mind a break? 💭
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Photo credit 📷: @veronicadearly
You don’t have to be who you always were
Sometimes through my abortion process I have grieved and longed for who I once was, I have grieved for the life and state of mind I had before my abortion. Little did I realise of the gift abortion brought to me, the lessons and strength that I have gained are so much more than the person I once was. After years I’m finally opening up to the change with open arms. I no longer view abortion as a wholly negative part of my life. I appreciate and look back upon the difficulties and will never forget. But I also see the major positive that abortion has given to me. Through my journey I have learned how to reach deep for my strength and evolve in my most destructive days. That strength is in there somewhere for you too. 🌿
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
What post abortion trauma can look like:
Post abortion trauma can look like many things and take many different forms. Here are a few noticeable traits of post abortion trauma. If you or someone you know may be experiencing post abortion trauma, get to understand these feelings more in order to manage and in time, ease these emotions. Trauma can be overcome. 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Think about all that you are
Going through abortion at times can make you feel low, defeated and deflated. But always know that you have proven your strength and power by getting through this process and have many amazing qualities that make you, YOU. My mission for you today is to say hell no to those negative thoughts, even just for the day - if you can think about all that you are instead of all that you are not, it’s a great start 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @sunderlandwasp
Nova Radio interview
I’ve been chatting abortion with the amazing Jerry from the charity Anxious minds on Nova Radio North East. If you would like to playback my interview - copy this link ➡️
https://www.novaradio.co.uk/anxiousminds /
select playback on the 26/04/19 show 🗓 and skip to 36:45 minutes remaining 📻
https://www.novaradio.co.uk/anxiousminds /
select playback on the 26/04/19 show 🗓 and skip to 36:45 minutes remaining 📻
True feels
Wise words from @notesfromyourtherapist 🌈. Whilst it’s amazing to take a positive spin on our experiences, it’s just as important to listen to those feelings of sadness and grief and begin to accept and understand the root of our emotions/pain. If you need an outlet for your story of abortion, our inbox is always open here and we can help in guiding you to express your true emotions in a safe space. 🦋
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Photo credit 📷: @notesfromyourtherapist
Cut yourself some slack
Cut yourself some slack. Stop with the expectations and timelines of healing from abortion. Be content with how far you have come today. Without even realising it, you’re making progress and becoming the strongest version of yourself. Even just the simple act of acknowledging your feelings and thoughts about your abortion IS progress. I don’t think we give ourselves enough credit for the work we put into our healing. Try not to overload yourself with the stress of deadlines for when you should return back to a “normal” state. Taking things day by day is key.
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Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Thank you
Thank you to all of you who have interacted with the page or have wrote in to seek help and share your story. The response has been amazing as of late. It’s so empowering to watch these people grow and heal behind the scenes here. ❤️
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Truth
The truth about post abortion trauma. 🦋
Words 📖: Catherine Woodiwiss
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Words 📖: Catherine Woodiwiss
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Free
In order to let your worries and your baggage go, forgive yourself. Free your mind and your thoughts of guilt by saying to yourself, I forgive my actions and I went through with these actions to give myself the best life and opportunities possible. Abortion is something to be remembered as empowering you, not to hurt you. It’s an act that ultimately aided 2 lives for the better. You deserve to be free 🦋
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Photo credit 📷: @l.zyers
You do not owe anybody an explanation
You do not owe anybody an explanation for your abortion. Your mind, body and choices are YOUR own. You’re so brave and powerful - to let an ignorant opinion make you feel judged or hurt would be such a shame. Show off your certainty and your courage. You’re an abortion survivor. 🦋
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
When can I begin the recovery process?
Question 🤷♀️: “When can I begin the recovery process after my abortion?”
Answer 🦋: Realistically you can begin the recovery process straight after your abortion. But in my opinion and personal experience, it’s wise to take some time out to accept what has happened to your body and to really look after yourself. Give yourself the love, self care and attention that your body needs at this time. Give yourself time to grieve if you feel the need to. We don’t quite realise it but abortion can be a lot to deal with and can be a big strain on our bodies and mind. The mental recovery is a life long process and so even following the correct steps may never give you the answer you need. It’s something that can and should be revisited over the years. But to answer the question, I think a few weeks-one month is a fine time to begin looking at your feelings and thoughts about the abortion.
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Answer 🦋: Realistically you can begin the recovery process straight after your abortion. But in my opinion and personal experience, it’s wise to take some time out to accept what has happened to your body and to really look after yourself. Give yourself the love, self care and attention that your body needs at this time. Give yourself time to grieve if you feel the need to. We don’t quite realise it but abortion can be a lot to deal with and can be a big strain on our bodies and mind. The mental recovery is a life long process and so even following the correct steps may never give you the answer you need. It’s something that can and should be revisited over the years. But to answer the question, I think a few weeks-one month is a fine time to begin looking at your feelings and thoughts about the abortion.
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Mother’s day
Happy Mother’s Day to the thousands upon thousands of women that have gone through abortion 🌸 Today of all days is a good time to talk about or remember your abortion in a positive light. Honour and remember your bravery. There is no harm in longing for the loss of motherhood, but please take time this Mother’s Day to give yourself some credit in making the best decision possible for the potential life you made. You are amazing.
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Healing
Heal on your own clock ⏰ and in your own way 🌈
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Photo credit 📷: @tanyamarkul
It takes guts
It takes guts to power through abortion. Especially in such a confused and unaccepting society - Not everybody will recognise this, and not everybody will be able to show the appreciation you deserve for just how far you have come on your journey. But there are a number of us who do understand and we can relate. We are here to remind you just how amazing you are for growing with your experiences (positive or negative) each and every day. You got GUTS. 👊
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Ask me
One thing I have learnt through my journey is that the individuals in our lives are not mind readers. I know that a few years back it would drive me insane because I was at such a low point and nobody had the slightest clue that it was due to the aftermath of my abortion. I masked it so well. What I should have done was speak out and tell those I love what I was feeling rather than resenting them for something they didn’t even know. I sat there wishing day after day for someone to just ask me “how are you feeling about your abortion?” And perhaps I would have healed quicker if that were the case. But in the end, the strength and power to speak up had to come from myself in order to bloom 🌷
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Feelings
Feel however you want to feel, but do it unapologetically. There is no right or wrong feeling when it comes to abortion. Our experiences are completely our own and individual🌻
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Understand and accept
Thankyou to each and every individual who has shared their story of abortion. You help others to find a voice and accept their own choice 💕
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag By @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Ways to cope
Ways to cope with your abortion 💫 • remember you are a good person • make time to do the things you love • care for your body • remember your reasons • forgive yourself • feel your emotions
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Make room for the good
I think we’re very good at beating ourselves up. In fact, we are too good. We’re so good at beating ourselves up over the ‘bad’ decisions in life that we forget to make room for the good. The choice to have an abortion was no doubt for good reason - why do we so quickly forget that? Give your good choices the recognition they deserve. We chose to put ourselves first in order to maintain our mental health and wellbeing. Let’s continue to do so by making room for the good today. 🧠
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
IIt’s okay to seek post abortion help
I hope you know that it’s okay to seek post abortion help 🦋 Don’t let the taboo of abortion put you off seeking post abortion help if you feel you need it. It is your right to access help and information on your journey through abortion. It is not publicised enough that these types of services are even available to us. At times the world can make us feel so alone but please know that you are not and are in fact welcome to be part of a big movement that is accepting of you and your story. 🤗
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Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
People start to heal the moment they feel heard
“People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” 🌼
Try opening up about your abortion story. You never know just how much of a difference being heard can make until you make that brave step to speak out and share your story. Drop us a message today, we are here to help you be heard.
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Try opening up about your abortion story. You never know just how much of a difference being heard can make until you make that brave step to speak out and share your story. Drop us a message today, we are here to help you be heard.
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National abortion provider appreciation day
Today is National abortion provider appreciation day ✨ I am so thankful to abortion providers for aiding thousands around the world in need and for providing access to abortion every single day. They take on such a vital and brave role and without them my life would be very different today.
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Who can I talk to about my abortion?
Question 🤷♀️: “Who can I talk to about my abortion?”
Answer 🦋: Abortion can often be a lonely process. The process itself can be experienced alone or there is often not a safe place provided to talk post abortion. Always know that here at @abortionrrecoverynewcastle we are available to talk about whatever your needs or worries are and can guide you through step by step on the recovery process. But if you feel that you need to seek an alternative, here are some examples:
1) Confiding in someone you trust. It can feel intimidating to disclose your abortion to anybody in fear of judgement but it is important to remember that your family, friends, employers, teachers etc care for you and only want only the best for you. Opening up to them may not be as bad as it seems. Simply just telling someone what you have been through can provide so much relief. 🙋🏻♀️
2) Counselling. Free/affordable counselling services are worth checking out with your doctor or health services in your local area. It is surprising what services may be readily available to you. However, there are free online services available such as 7cups.com that provide free emotional support around the clock. 👨🏻💼
3) Joining an activity or community group can open up new friendships in which you may find you can open up about things that you can not with your immediate family and friends. 🏃♀️
4) Social media pages/online forums provide support and spaces to talk about sensitive topics with other people experiencing similar worries or issues - e.g Mentalhealthforum.net. 💻
5) If none of the above seem feasible, try and at least start to recognise what you need to talk about in a personal diary. Once you get your story down on paper it can sometime spur you on to speak it. 📔
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Answer 🦋: Abortion can often be a lonely process. The process itself can be experienced alone or there is often not a safe place provided to talk post abortion. Always know that here at @abortionrrecoverynewcastle we are available to talk about whatever your needs or worries are and can guide you through step by step on the recovery process. But if you feel that you need to seek an alternative, here are some examples:
1) Confiding in someone you trust. It can feel intimidating to disclose your abortion to anybody in fear of judgement but it is important to remember that your family, friends, employers, teachers etc care for you and only want only the best for you. Opening up to them may not be as bad as it seems. Simply just telling someone what you have been through can provide so much relief. 🙋🏻♀️
2) Counselling. Free/affordable counselling services are worth checking out with your doctor or health services in your local area. It is surprising what services may be readily available to you. However, there are free online services available such as 7cups.com that provide free emotional support around the clock. 👨🏻💼
3) Joining an activity or community group can open up new friendships in which you may find you can open up about things that you can not with your immediate family and friends. 🏃♀️
4) Social media pages/online forums provide support and spaces to talk about sensitive topics with other people experiencing similar worries or issues - e.g Mentalhealthforum.net. 💻
5) If none of the above seem feasible, try and at least start to recognise what you need to talk about in a personal diary. Once you get your story down on paper it can sometime spur you on to speak it. 📔
Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
International women’s day
Happy international women’s day to you all 👭Here’s to the women that stand up, speak up and rise up after abortion - they are a special kind ✨
Photo credit 📷: Valery Lemay
Words 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: Valery Lemay
Words 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
What should I take with me to my abortion appointment?
Question 🤷♀️: “What should I take with me to my abortion appointment?” 👜
At the time of my abortion I was unable to dress comfortably or pack essential items with me as it would have appeared out of the ordinary to my family who knew nothing about it. If I could speak to my past self, I would recommend the following list that can be easily hidden in an average sized handbag for those of you that require privacy ⬇️
1) Spare underwear in case of accidents 👙
2) Sanitary pads for bleeding (although the hospital or clinic will most likely provide these) 🏥
3) Leggings or any comfortable clothing that will roll easily into a handbag 👖
4) Something sentimental or special to you to provide comfort to you, this can be helpful when experiencing abortion alone 🧸
5) Candy to lift your spirits and also take away any feelings of sickness 🍬
6) A book OR music to keep you occupied 📖 🎶
7) Cosy socks to provide some extra warmth and loveliness 🧦
8) Toiletries to freshen up before you head home 🧴
9) Emergency contacts e.g transport home📱
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
At the time of my abortion I was unable to dress comfortably or pack essential items with me as it would have appeared out of the ordinary to my family who knew nothing about it. If I could speak to my past self, I would recommend the following list that can be easily hidden in an average sized handbag for those of you that require privacy ⬇️
1) Spare underwear in case of accidents 👙
2) Sanitary pads for bleeding (although the hospital or clinic will most likely provide these) 🏥
3) Leggings or any comfortable clothing that will roll easily into a handbag 👖
4) Something sentimental or special to you to provide comfort to you, this can be helpful when experiencing abortion alone 🧸
5) Candy to lift your spirits and also take away any feelings of sickness 🍬
6) A book OR music to keep you occupied 📖 🎶
7) Cosy socks to provide some extra warmth and loveliness 🧦
8) Toiletries to freshen up before you head home 🧴
9) Emergency contacts e.g transport home📱
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Call me back...
“Can you call me back when you’re ready to stop being a little bitch about abortion?” 😂
I think the majority of us whom have gone through abortion have all experienced the “This Just isn’t the right time or place to talk about it” or “Don’t be so insensitive” statements. I can respect that not everyone wants to speak out about abortion or that they are anti abortion. But how, when and where are we supposed to speak out if we are repeatedly shut down by so many? Particularly surprising when it’s the people who we once thought would lift us up and show support no matter what. Please don’t be made to feel like you’re a freak just because a few do not accept your situation 💕
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Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
I think the majority of us whom have gone through abortion have all experienced the “This Just isn’t the right time or place to talk about it” or “Don’t be so insensitive” statements. I can respect that not everyone wants to speak out about abortion or that they are anti abortion. But how, when and where are we supposed to speak out if we are repeatedly shut down by so many? Particularly surprising when it’s the people who we once thought would lift us up and show support no matter what. Please don’t be made to feel like you’re a freak just because a few do not accept your situation 💕
Photo credit 📷: Balasoiu
Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
It’s okay to grieve after abortion
A daily reminder to the world: it is okay to grieve after abortion. 💕
It astounds me that the majority of individuals I talk to about abortion, do not feel that they have the right to feel pain for their abortion. I was that exact person a few years back, but luckily I found some good advice and good people along the way to tell me different. Speak and feel your abortion unapologetically!
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
It astounds me that the majority of individuals I talk to about abortion, do not feel that they have the right to feel pain for their abortion. I was that exact person a few years back, but luckily I found some good advice and good people along the way to tell me different. Speak and feel your abortion unapologetically!
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Things could’ve been different
I always imagine how different things could have been with regards to my pregnancy/abortion. But I have to remind myself that even if they were, that was not the right time for me to bring a child into this world. I know that my personal situation, my mental and physical health and most importantly the potential life would not have been better off. 💭
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: @wordswag by @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
I am thankful for my abortion
I am thankful for my abortion everyday for the various lessons and positives that have come of my journey. But special days, like today come around every once in a while and really help to reinforce that I was supposed to ride this journey for a reason. I believe that each and every one of us that have endured abortion, have been put through this process for a greater reason. Be it strength, resilience, a lesson learnt, the need to experience loss, the need to feel empowered, the need to share a story - it’s kind of magical how life works 🌈
Photo credit 📷: Dirt in my shoes
Words 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: Dirt in my shoes
Words 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
My boyfriend won’t open up about our abortion
Question 🤷♀️: “My boyfriend won’t open up about our abortion, how can I help?”
Answer 🦋: Abortion can be just as much as a struggle for men, as it can be for women. It is important to let your partner know and to remind him that you are there for him and are open to listening to his feelings and views. We all deal with things in different ways and so while some individuals require time and space, others will require a little support and encouragement in order to speak up. There is nothing wrong with asking your partner “how do you feel about our abortion?”. But please be mindful that it might not always be the answer you want to hear. Still, there is no reason you both can’t be mature and respectful of each other’s opinions regarding the abortion. It’s a wonderful thing to be able to work trough the process together if you can. Simple acts like creating a quiet and comfortable space and making the time to have conversation with one another can be a big help.
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Answer 🦋: Abortion can be just as much as a struggle for men, as it can be for women. It is important to let your partner know and to remind him that you are there for him and are open to listening to his feelings and views. We all deal with things in different ways and so while some individuals require time and space, others will require a little support and encouragement in order to speak up. There is nothing wrong with asking your partner “how do you feel about our abortion?”. But please be mindful that it might not always be the answer you want to hear. Still, there is no reason you both can’t be mature and respectful of each other’s opinions regarding the abortion. It’s a wonderful thing to be able to work trough the process together if you can. Simple acts like creating a quiet and comfortable space and making the time to have conversation with one another can be a big help.
Photo credit 📷: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Accept what IS
Try to accept your experiences and situation for what they are instead of longing for something you can not change. I find it so helpful to remember the positive factors that have come from going through with my abortion 🌈
Photo credit 📷: Unknown
Words 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: Unknown
Words 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
I don’t know if I should feel happy or sad about my abortion
Question 🤷♀️: “I don’t know if I should feel happy or sad about my abortion.”
Answer 🦋: There are no rules as to how you should feel about your abortion. You are entitled to feel however your brain and body need you to feel at any particular moment. It is okay to feel confused about your feelings and it is more than okay to feel happy and sad about your abortion. In one breath, you’re sad because you may feel that you have lost something that was a part of you and you need the time and space to grieve. You’re sad at the thoughts and fantasises of “what if”. And in another breath, you’re happy because you made the right decision for you and there are so many positives that may have come from the experience e.g. being able to focus on an interest or career, being able to take care of yourself first or other loved ones that are a priority. So please, embrace each emotion because it is so normal.
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Answer 🦋: There are no rules as to how you should feel about your abortion. You are entitled to feel however your brain and body need you to feel at any particular moment. It is okay to feel confused about your feelings and it is more than okay to feel happy and sad about your abortion. In one breath, you’re sad because you may feel that you have lost something that was a part of you and you need the time and space to grieve. You’re sad at the thoughts and fantasises of “what if”. And in another breath, you’re happy because you made the right decision for you and there are so many positives that may have come from the experience e.g. being able to focus on an interest or career, being able to take care of yourself first or other loved ones that are a priority. So please, embrace each emotion because it is so normal.
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Is it normal to bleed after my abortion?
I thought it may be a good idea to begin sharing the questions I get asked on a daily basis so that others can find comfort in these answers if too shy or too afraid to ask ❓Feel free to ask me anything! My knowledge is based purely from experience and what I have learnt from other professionals along the way.
Question 🤷♀️: “Is it normal to bleed after my abortion?”
Answer 🦋: Yes, it is perfectly normal! I remember wearing pads for what felt like forever after my abortion. Bleeding usually lasts no more than 2-3 weeks so if you are worried please talk to your doctor! 😊
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Question 🤷♀️: “Is it normal to bleed after my abortion?”
Answer 🦋: Yes, it is perfectly normal! I remember wearing pads for what felt like forever after my abortion. Bleeding usually lasts no more than 2-3 weeks so if you are worried please talk to your doctor! 😊
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You have grown
Every day that you watch the sun rise, every day that you keep on powering through the recovery process, you are growing and changing for the better. If you or someone you know need a hand growing and healing after abortion, simply send us a message! 🌞🌼
Photo credit 📷: @hello.sola
Photo credit 📷: @hello.sola
You are tough
Living through the aftermath of abortion can be a real tough journey for some, but remember: you’re just as strong, if not stronger, and you CAN be content in your recovery and content with your choice without feeling in the wrong. 🌈
Photo credit 📷: @girlaboutshef
Photo credit 📷: @girlaboutshef
Abortion is not a nasty word
Abortion is not a nasty word. Use it, speak it, share it. 🌻
Photo credit 📷: Ruth Black
Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: Ruth Black
Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
My dog helped me through abortion recovery
One of the major things that helped me through my abortion recovery: my dog 🐶
Throwback to a number of years ago. A few months after my abortion my mum surprised me with my best friend, Mars. Mars gave me something else to put my energy into and gave me a focus. I had someone else to think about other than myself and the life I had lost. It’s amazing what animals can do for your mental health. Their love is unconditional and without him I’m sure my journey would be so different. He’s been there on my lonely days, he’s been there on my sad and happy days. Some friendships are just meant to be 🐾
Anybody else out there with an animal bestie helping them through the tough times?
Throwback to a number of years ago. A few months after my abortion my mum surprised me with my best friend, Mars. Mars gave me something else to put my energy into and gave me a focus. I had someone else to think about other than myself and the life I had lost. It’s amazing what animals can do for your mental health. Their love is unconditional and without him I’m sure my journey would be so different. He’s been there on my lonely days, he’s been there on my sad and happy days. Some friendships are just meant to be 🐾
Anybody else out there with an animal bestie helping them through the tough times?
Be kind to yourself
Be kind to yourself, always 🌿
Those who don’t understand the journey of abortion are often judging, comparing and criticising. But just because those people find your decision difficult to accept, that does not take away the right to love and appreciate yourself/your choices. It seems that we are open to criticism but not open to our own self love. Take a step back today and appreciate you.
Photo credit 📷: @gorkiegork
Those who don’t understand the journey of abortion are often judging, comparing and criticising. But just because those people find your decision difficult to accept, that does not take away the right to love and appreciate yourself/your choices. It seems that we are open to criticism but not open to our own self love. Take a step back today and appreciate you.
Photo credit 📷: @gorkiegork
Healing
4 ingredients for abortion recovery: Patience, love, kindness and self care... 🦋
Photo credit 📷: @theanjumchoudhary
Photo credit 📷: @theanjumchoudhary
Man
A poem written by my partner, Andy. This piece is based on his personal experience of abortion through a mans eyes. It explores how a man in some situations tries to protect the woman but often feels the need to remain silent about his own thoughts and feelings since he did not go through the experience physically. 💭
Photo credit 📷: Popsugar
Words 📖: Andy Miller
Photo credit 📷: Popsugar
Words 📖: Andy Miller
Make YOU the focus
No matter what stage you are at in life or your recovery process, you’re there for a reason. Focus on your own journey and don’t compare yours to others. You’re doing your best and that is all that matters. 💫
Photo credit 📷: Unknown
Photo credit 📷: Unknown
There is nothing wrong with YOU
It’s been a personal battle for me to accept my decisions and who I really am. I’m still on that journey. But we must keep reminding ourselves that there is nothing wrong with us or the choice we made to have an abortion. We should still love and accept ourselves regardless of that and continue to welcome ourselves home 💕
Photo credit 📷: @josie.doodles
Photo credit 📷: @josie.doodles
Valentines
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Photo credit 📷: @stacieswift
Photo credit 📷: @stacieswift
Self love
Happy valentines to all you gorgeous peeps. This valentines I’m trying to forget about the soppy and commercial side of things and instead focus on self love 💕
Self love is FREE and it is so vital to the abortion recovery process. You deserve to love yourself for simply being you, for making the decision to look after you, for being bold and brave and for becoming the powerful man or woman you are because of those actions. After abortion we can sometimes automatically feel empowered and welcome self love and other times we can feel deflated and pick apart every piece of our being. But why? Punishing ourselves does not better the situation and it took me a long time to realise this. So today, this valentines, even if you can just find one small thing you like or love about yourself, tell it to yourself, be kind to your mind and body. Keep on powering through because you deserve it ❤️
Photo credit 📷: @stacies
Self love is FREE and it is so vital to the abortion recovery process. You deserve to love yourself for simply being you, for making the decision to look after you, for being bold and brave and for becoming the powerful man or woman you are because of those actions. After abortion we can sometimes automatically feel empowered and welcome self love and other times we can feel deflated and pick apart every piece of our being. But why? Punishing ourselves does not better the situation and it took me a long time to realise this. So today, this valentines, even if you can just find one small thing you like or love about yourself, tell it to yourself, be kind to your mind and body. Keep on powering through because you deserve it ❤️
Photo credit 📷: @stacies
Be kind
Sadly, abortion didn’t matter to me until I went through it myself. The same with many topics in this life, I suppose. Until we experience something personally, we do not understand the extent to which an experience can make you feel a variety of emotions and impact upon our lives. So no matter the subject - be it abortion, disability, mental health and so on. I’ve learnt that it’s important to be kind, be open, and to be understanding. And most importantly try and provide a listening ear if you can see someone going through their own battle. Just because it doesn’t matter to you is no excuse 💙
Photo credit 📷: @doodlepeoplexo
Photo credit 📷: @doodlepeoplexo
Bravery
Don’t be afraid to dive deep and tell somebody about your abortion. Here we believe in our little community that sharing pain or even shedding light on positive abortion experiences help one another through their darkness. 🌌
Photo credit 📷: @glamourmag
Photo credit 📷: @glamourmag
Abortion is normal
Let’s keep reinforcing this message. Abortion is normal. So many are shocked to just even hear the word. I’ve found myself when I’m talking in public about abortion I actually tend to lower my voice. Why? Let’s shout it. Let’s normalise it. Because we all know someone - be it yourself, your friend, your uncle, your neighbour, your colleague. Someone near to you is always experiencing abortion. 🦋
Photo credit 📷: @thesweetfeminist
Photo credit 📷: @thesweetfeminist
Mind your own uterus
Abortion is a woman’s choice and a woman’s right 👧
Unfortunately there is still a mass of people out in the world that will make you feel like your decision to have or even consider abortion is wrong. But simply remind them to mind their own damn uterus. Your body, your choice.
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Unfortunately there is still a mass of people out in the world that will make you feel like your decision to have or even consider abortion is wrong. But simply remind them to mind their own damn uterus. Your body, your choice.
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Journey
Each of our journeys through abortion are different but are vital in shaping us into the men and women of the future 🌹🥀
Photo credit 📷: Unknown
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: Unknown
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Monday blues
A poem I wrote yesterday thinking about those of us recovering, facing the Monday blues ☔️
I’m sure all of us recovering feel the weight of the week ahead when Monday comes around. It’s okay to want to sack the day off and surrender to those feelings and this poem focuses on those days where we just let those bad days defeat us. The important thing to remember is that despite those days we surrender to ‘Monday blues’ it is key that we stand back up, accept that one bad day and keep going 🌈
Photo credit 📷: Tim Tadder
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
I’m sure all of us recovering feel the weight of the week ahead when Monday comes around. It’s okay to want to sack the day off and surrender to those feelings and this poem focuses on those days where we just let those bad days defeat us. The important thing to remember is that despite those days we surrender to ‘Monday blues’ it is key that we stand back up, accept that one bad day and keep going 🌈
Photo credit 📷: Tim Tadder
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Facts
Speak about abortion, share about abortion, be informed about abortion, don’t be scared to utter the word ABORTION. We can break the taboo. 🗣🤳🏻
Photo credit 📷: Philipp Klinger
Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Photo credit 📷: Philipp Klinger
Words: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Break the mould
Break the mould 💥
Thinking back to my earlier post today, here is a poem I wrote about appreciating and accepting the decision made to go through with your abortion while battling to express your pain. It’s a hard battle because of the judgement and preconceptions made that women who are relieved to have had an abortion should not feel pain. This is untrue. You have the right to feel.
Photo credit 📷: Printim @ Etsy
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastlej
Thinking back to my earlier post today, here is a poem I wrote about appreciating and accepting the decision made to go through with your abortion while battling to express your pain. It’s a hard battle because of the judgement and preconceptions made that women who are relieved to have had an abortion should not feel pain. This is untrue. You have the right to feel.
Photo credit 📷: Printim @ Etsy
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastlej
I know I made the right decision but...
To those of you recovering, You should know that it is okay to think about the “what ifs”. 💭
You made the right decision for you at a certain point in your life about a pregnancy and that was a brave and bold thing to do. However, it’s natural to wish or think about possibilities - if you did things this way or that... Would my baby be a boy or a girl? Where would we be now? Just because you grieve or sometimes wish you could change what has happened does not mean that you did not make the right decision. There are many positives that have come from your abortion. Sometimes thoughts of regret happen to take over and it is okay to welcome them into our head space for a short time. 🧠
Photo credit 📷: @postsecret
You made the right decision for you at a certain point in your life about a pregnancy and that was a brave and bold thing to do. However, it’s natural to wish or think about possibilities - if you did things this way or that... Would my baby be a boy or a girl? Where would we be now? Just because you grieve or sometimes wish you could change what has happened does not mean that you did not make the right decision. There are many positives that have come from your abortion. Sometimes thoughts of regret happen to take over and it is okay to welcome them into our head space for a short time. 🧠
Photo credit 📷: @postsecret
Permission to grieve
The poem I wrote today focusses on the taboo surrounding abortion and the expectation society has for us to keep hush about it. 🤫
I didn’t think I was allowed to grieve over an abortion. I was embarrassed to grieve until I discovered that other men and women were present on online forums writing memorial posts and such. I strongly believe that until you are able to mourn, your emotions remain trapped and prevent you from moving forward. 👣
Photo credit 📷: Flora Bosi
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
I didn’t think I was allowed to grieve over an abortion. I was embarrassed to grieve until I discovered that other men and women were present on online forums writing memorial posts and such. I strongly believe that until you are able to mourn, your emotions remain trapped and prevent you from moving forward. 👣
Photo credit 📷: Flora Bosi
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Men face abortion too
One thing I feel that is often disregarded is a mans position during abortion. 👨
In many cases the man is not present and will not be aware of these feelings. But for those who do go through the experience together with a partner, it’s important to consider their thoughts and feelings.
7 years ago, I wish I had taken the chance to really ask about my partners feelings. I was fully thinking about myself, and only myself. Which I think is okay in a situation like this. But if I could go back I would remind myself that men feel too.
Photo credit 📷: Rook @ Pinterest
In many cases the man is not present and will not be aware of these feelings. But for those who do go through the experience together with a partner, it’s important to consider their thoughts and feelings.
7 years ago, I wish I had taken the chance to really ask about my partners feelings. I was fully thinking about myself, and only myself. Which I think is okay in a situation like this. But if I could go back I would remind myself that men feel too.
Photo credit 📷: Rook @ Pinterest
Blank expression
I wrote a short poem this morning after thinking about The power of expression in the abortion process. 😶
Do you remember the day you were told you were pregnant? 🤰🏻 Funnily, I remember every single detail about that day. I remember what I ate, what I was wearing, my lipstick colour and especially the blank expression when the lady muttered to me “so yes, it’s positive”. That blank expression lasted my entire short pregnancy. It’s as if as soon as I heard those four words, I turned my feelings off and entered auto pilot mode. This expression was the thing that got me through. I pretended I had no feelings. I pretended abortion was my only choice. I pretended I wanted this little raspberry inside me gone. The blank expression was a lie.
Artwork ✏️: Henrietta Harris
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Do you remember the day you were told you were pregnant? 🤰🏻 Funnily, I remember every single detail about that day. I remember what I ate, what I was wearing, my lipstick colour and especially the blank expression when the lady muttered to me “so yes, it’s positive”. That blank expression lasted my entire short pregnancy. It’s as if as soon as I heard those four words, I turned my feelings off and entered auto pilot mode. This expression was the thing that got me through. I pretended I had no feelings. I pretended abortion was my only choice. I pretended I wanted this little raspberry inside me gone. The blank expression was a lie.
Artwork ✏️: Henrietta Harris
Poem 📖: @abortionrrecoverynewcastle
Recharge
It’s been a rainy, miserable day. ☔️ I love the rain - but sometimes they can be the worst days that really come down on your energy. You don’t want to open your eyes, you don’t want to get out of bed, you don’t want to talk or face anybody. Maybe you can’t even bring yourself to make a slice of toast. And that’s okay.
If all you did today was stay in bed, or all you did was watch TV, read a book - that’s good. You’re recharging and taking time for YOU. Make sure you schedule time for yourself even if it is as little as an hour per week. We often take on too much and forget to simply sit and process our own thoughts. In order to begin abortion recovery it’s important to address those thoughts instead of burying them at the back of our mind to forget.
Photo credit 📷: @roomporn
If all you did today was stay in bed, or all you did was watch TV, read a book - that’s good. You’re recharging and taking time for YOU. Make sure you schedule time for yourself even if it is as little as an hour per week. We often take on too much and forget to simply sit and process our own thoughts. In order to begin abortion recovery it’s important to address those thoughts instead of burying them at the back of our mind to forget.
Photo credit 📷: @roomporn
Everyone loves someone who had an abortion
We all know or love someone who has had an abortion. So why is it still a taboo subject? 🤷♀️
Often when I speak to someone I know about it or about my website it’s quickly brushed under the carpet because they don’t know how to react. Why? Is it because there is a stigma attached to it? Are those of us whom have experienced abortion scared to retouch the subject? Do you want to break the taboo? Start simple and give us a message here ❤️ The first step is a big step.
Photo credit 📷: @abortionintucson
Often when I speak to someone I know about it or about my website it’s quickly brushed under the carpet because they don’t know how to react. Why? Is it because there is a stigma attached to it? Are those of us whom have experienced abortion scared to retouch the subject? Do you want to break the taboo? Start simple and give us a message here ❤️ The first step is a big step.
Photo credit 📷: @abortionintucson